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Alright...so here's what's going on...I have a very close friend, whom i care about very much...well she's suicidal right now, and i don't know how to help her. She came to me for help because i'm the person who people seem to go to for help because i'm the guy who's experienced pretty much everything, so i know what's its like to have life in the toilet.
One thing i haven't had to deal with in life is a stupid, overprotective parent who wants to lock their child in the basement so they don't hurt themselves. I never really had parents so its something i've never had to deal with. Well her mother is psycho. Her mother thinks she is a pothead, a whore, a drunk stupid good for nothing daughter who should never be allowed to do anything but school and extra curriculars.
She approached me and asked for my cell phone number, saying that if she might call sometime, tell me to come pick her up, and it might save her life. She's already called me once because she had a knife to her chest. I went and picked her up and saved her. And i'll do this for as long as i can...but i can't always be there. So i'm asking you guys for help. I need some long term solutions to help her, she's already in counceling and that doesn't seem to help. Also how can she handle things with her mother, (her parents are divorced btw) i have not a clue on what to tell her. I figure someone here has a psycho parent, or even some of you might be parents yourself (Pam) that could give me some insight on how to help her.
So please help me...i don't know what to do other than to never turn my cell phone off...ever.
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I really can't help, just try and make her feel confident and good about herself, comfert her and so on.
All I can really say =-/ Good luck anyways...
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There are hotlines for this. Browse the web! If her life is already that bad, then being placed under different care (as bad as it sounds) will be a great change for her. She can also get help from these places to get rid of those suicidal tendancies. And always remember to stay in touch. You can't just abandon her.
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Damn....
Hmmmm a sucidal girl with a over protective parent.
Tell her that how life is good and death isnt, try to comfort her as WarSlut said, tell her to try to impress her mother and do things she likes for her. Tell her that why kill your self over one person? Every1 else likes you and they will miss you if you do a crazy thing. Try to explain to her mother seperatly from ur friend that ur daughter is as bad as you think and should try to give her a chance, and after that tell ur friend to impress her.
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Thanks for the help so far guys...i really appreciate it. Nubli what do you mean by a change of location, like going through the courts to change custody of her or what? She's not 18 yet so she just can't up and leave. I don't think. I won't ever abandon her.
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UberGrossMann Wrote:Thanks for the help so far guys...i really appreciate it. Nubli what do you mean by a change of location, like going through the courts to change custody of her or what? She's not 18 yet so she just can't up and leave. I don't think. I won't ever abandon her.
Child services can put her under custody of new/temporary parents. It may not be the best thing, but if her parents are truly that bad... you never know.
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I didn't know that, thanks. I thought about having custody of her transferred to me, i know i have to go through the courts. I have no clue how long something like this would take. Do you know n u b l i?
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UberGrossMann Wrote:I didn't know that, thanks. I thought about having custody of her transferred to me, i know i have to go through the courts. I have no clue how long something like this would take. Do you know n u b l i?
If I have my facts straight, child services could take the child away initially (and place in the care of another person) while the original parents go through the court system.
I don't know how much luck you would get having her transferred to you, she would most likely go with another family member.
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Yes probaly, i tihnk it takes a few weeks.
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Well the one thing i do have going for me with the courts is that I know pretty much everyone judge and lawyer in my county (i'm pre law in college). As far as other family members, her father lives in hawaii but she doesn't want to move there. And other than that she really doesn't have any other family members, i believe both her parents were only children, and her grandparents all passed away. Once again thanks for the help guys i really appreciate it. If anyone else has anything to help please let me know the more help the better. I really don't want to lose her.
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wow man, you definitely need to make an attempt at having custody of her transferred to you, if she doesnt want to move to hawaii, both her prents were only children and her grandparents have passed away then you should have a damn good chance of becoming her legal guardian. But definitely give it a try, it's bound to work
good luck man
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i say just take all the sharp things outta your house and have her move into your house and maybe umm... have her courses changed so u can always be watching her.... and have another female friend to make sure she doesnt kill herself in the bathroom or u could put her in an institute or show her how good and smart she really is.
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dude save her... take her away from her mom for a while and if her mom says that say stfu. and take her its her choice
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Well, personally having been taken away from my parents, if you can get her mom in trouble for something (not the best idea... =\) you could have her taken out of her mom's custody in less than 2 hours. =\
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one of my close girlfriends is suicidal. chances are she wont do anything. she'll cut herself, and make threats. but everyone does that. i threatened to kill myself to my moms face. -shrugs- but you just need to talk to her. give her compliments... dont look at the negatives, only the possitives. if she always calls you, why dont you be the one to call her sometimes. make her feel wanted, special. thats why people are suicidal. because they think they'res no reason for them to be here. just be the nicest u can be to her. its worked for me. now i have a friend who i can count on for anything, anytime.
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