The Death of a Relative

[Pamela]

Mathalamus says:
pam, i cannot make that post about my grandma because it will not be comprehensible..
Fiercefairy...FFXI addict!!~scratches arm absently~ says:
I understand
Fiercefairy...FFXI addict!!~scratches arm absently~ says:
You posted in Crabby thread just a few things
Mathalamus says:
yeah but not the full details of it
Mathalamus says:
plus no body noticed
Fiercefairy...FFXI addict!!~scratches arm absently~ says:
I can post something if you like
Mathalamus says:
ok, you have my permmission to post so that everyone knows, sticky it if you have to
Fiercefairy...FFXI addict!!~scratches arm absently~ says:
What details would you like known?
Mathalamus says:
the date of mygrandmas death, the time (820 PM) the funeral date may 4th, no you cant come, and the aftereffects is that i am alot more emotional than i was
Fiercefairy...FFXI addict!!~scratches arm absently~ says:
Describe it here and I will post our conversation,or just make a thread with information
Mathalamus says:
hm
Mathalamus says:
my grandmas death was on april 28th 820 PM
Mathalamus says:
after a lengthly batle with cancer (8 months)
Fiercefairy...FFXI addict!!~scratches arm absently~ says:
You also did not make it to the hospital in time did you
Mathalamus says:
nope
Mathalamus says:
i was there as fast as i can, which is about 45 mins too late
Fiercefairy...FFXI addict!!~scratches arm absently~ says:
It would be emotional for anyone
Mathalamus says:
yeah
Mathalamus says:
and my greatest regret is that i denied my grandma her last sight of me
Fiercefairy...FFXI addict!!~scratches arm absently~ says:
Describe what you felt for her growing up and how it felt missing being there for her
Mathalamus says:
i felt that grandma growing up was good, i thought she was going to live to at least 100 years old, now it feel like shit cause i was wrong, and she will not see me suceed in life
Fiercefairy...FFXI addict!!~scratches arm absently~ says:
But you will succede math
Mathalamus says:
i dont really think so
Fiercefairy...FFXI addict!!~scratches arm absently~ says:
Just grow up for her
Mathalamus says:
hmmm
Fiercefairy...FFXI addict!!~scratches arm absently~ says:
Become a man and make a life for yourself
Mathalamus says:
mmmm hard job
Fiercefairy...FFXI addict!!~scratches arm absently~ says:
This is what she would have wanted for you
Mathalamus says:
yeah..
Fiercefairy...FFXI addict!!~scratches arm absently~ says:
Then do that to honor her memory,respect her in this manner
Mathalamus says:
ok
Fiercefairy...FFXI addict!!~scratches arm absently~ says:
It is what she would have wanted for you while she lived ,because she loved you
Mathalamus says:
hmm
Mathalamus says:
i have an urge to hit laura
Fiercefairy...FFXI addict!!~scratches arm absently~ says:
She would kick your ass but thinking about it is normal
Fiercefairy...FFXI addict!!~scratches arm absently~ says:
Math are you also worried about your Mom smoking?
Mathalamus says:
shes quitting
Fiercefairy...FFXI addict!!~scratches arm absently~ says:
It is a difficult habit to break yet easy to pick up
Mathalamus says:
yep
Fiercefairy...FFXI addict!!~scratches arm absently~ says:
I wish her luck in that and hope she succedes
Mathalamus says:
she will live
Fiercefairy...FFXI addict!!~scratches arm absently~ says:
But it worries you doesn't it because of cancer
Mathalamus says:
yeah
Fiercefairy...FFXI addict!!~scratches arm absently~ says:
I will copy/paste all to this point and post it for you...is this ok?
Mathalamus says:
yeah it is




This was a request to let you all know what Math is going through.
Please make no snide remarks,or be rude in any way.Thank you ~Pamela

[PantallicA]

I don't have grandparents.

[Ares]

Dude I really know what your going thru my grandmother passed away not to long ago also
Yeah.. its some hard times man

[SilverTears]

sorry to hear, hope everything goes well for you.

[Tap]

If you need a vacation from the forum we will understand.

[Mathalamus]

hmm i will consider the vacation thing

[L4E]

my grandfather died cuz of lung cancer as well. I never even met him... can't really relate though, my grandfathers death being caused by lung cancer is what has always stopped me from smoking =) it's almost as if it were a good thing

Anyway math, I'll give you the same advice i give to girls who just got dumped (it's all good); life's too short to linger on the bad things, just go on with your life and cherish the good things that happen and that will happen

[Mathalamus]

good advice L4E.. ill take all the good times i can get

[Tap]

why is this even stickied?

[Pamela]

Because I can? My reasoning was simple,Matha is well known on the Forums.
True not always in a GOOD light,but we all know him.
He requested a sticky so that his (my) thread would be at the top and therefore more easily seen.
It was a simple request,and I saw no reason not to grant him that wish.
Let's face it...a sticky thread posted by me will be looked at.
This was my goal in posting this at ALL,because everyone ignores Matha.

[Metalhead Steve]

Well I am sorry to hear that Math...

I would hate for this to be seen in bad taste but I plan one dying by either lung cancer or a heart attack. Thats just how I live. I don't care how short my life is as long as I enjoy it.

[10 man]

Im sorry to hear about your loss. Best of wishes to you and your loved ones.

[Mathalamus]

hmm

my grandmas funeral will happen tomorrow i wont be on at blizzsector for that day

man times are hard....

[Kyle Destroyer]

I am so sorry about all of this, I can sort of relate, my grandmother is in really bad shape. I just hope you feel better.

[Frai7ty]

Sry to hear about your grandma man. I cannot tell you how sry I am.

[Pamela]

We all wish you well Math in this time of your loss.I hope that some of the difficulties you are facing in your personal life ease up a bit soon and you can at least find a small amount of peace.

[Aemaeth]

My condolences.
I recently lost one of my grandmothers to cancer, just be there for your family.

[PoTatoes]

Plus rep to make you feel better

[Mathalamus]

thanks everyone, im at my grandpas for the funeral, one of the more expensive ones

but, unlike last time, i wont be alone when it comes to dealing with this..

[Pamela]

Being alone when a loved one is gone makes it hard...Maybe this forum support shows you we care. Make no mistake...if you screw up I will nail you in a heartbeat.

I just hope you feel better.